Put some new shoes on!

So often there are times when we feel a certain way and we can’t change that, no matter how hard we try. We want to get away from these thoughts, this constant, endless self-talk going on in our heads, but in the end we find it difficult to run away from our own selves. But trust me, you can change how you feel and you are the only person who can do that. I know right about now this must have started sounding like one of those cliché inspirational talks – you can and you will sorta thing. Maybe it is just that and maybe that’s what we really need after all. Maybe there’s a reason why clichés are called clichés.

It’s hard to get over a heartbreak, a failure at work or a loss of life, no doubt about that. But it is only as difficult as long as you let it be. Everybody needs that time buffer of wallowing and sulkiness. That’s what makes us human. We are not those ‘hit me’ toys that you punch and they jump right back up. We are humans. If we fall and get hurt, we take a while to stand up, sometimes we may even need some support. But once we stand back up and decide to keep moving, who is gonna even remember that fall. (And let’s face it, you don’t wanna be a plastic toy filled with air in the body and sand in the ass!)

It is okay to use that time buffer. It is okay to take support but what is not okay is not deciding to move on. All you need are new shoes and a new perspective.

Personally I have always been the ‘fighting my own battle’ sorts and I was always very proud of it. Often miserable too but I never took any support. But now I realize its okay to take help. It doesn’t mean you’re weak. It just shows you’re human and if people need you, you may need them too.

Honestly I have lost all track of what I started with. The most glaring sign of imperfection right about now is clearly me. My point anyway is that we all need some discipline in our lives. As kids, our parents do that for us. As adults, we ought to do it for ourselves. Give yourself the time and space you need, but you can’t always do what you feel like. You need to be a little strict with yourself. Learn to clean up your own mess, learn to be careful the next time, learn to heal your own wounds and most of all, learn to take care of yourself, because all that was done for you as a kid, still needs to be done and you are the one who has to do it now, and in a much larger picture. If you want the freedom, you have to take the responsibilities with it.

There’s a way out of everything. You just have to be willing to look hard enough. None of us are all-winners or all-losers. Look around, there’s no one who has never been scarred. They’re walking. So should you.